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This is a book for men in a relationship with strong woman.

It is for men who want to feel more successful in that relationship, and more grounded in their own power. They want more closeness, sex, play, and ease with their partner.

Unfortunately, many of you are in relationships headed in the opposite direction. There may still be lots of love, but you feel her constant dissatisfaction with you. At best, she’s a little checked out and flat. At worst, things have become tense and toxic.

Playfulness, respect, and sex are increasingly rare, while irritability, nagging, and fighting become more common. Your partner increasingly steps in to take the lead, and criticizes you when you don’t.

You’re confused as to how things got this way. And you blame her. You believe that she’s become “bitchy”, “frigid”, or “unhappy”. So, you want her to change. 

Know this: in nearly all cases, the cause lies within you. When you don’t live from your Masculine core, when you don’t provide leadership, it almost always leads to a relationship characterized by irritability, bossiness, nagging, and fighting. I spend the majority of this book explaining why. 

But when you start living more from your Masculine core (using the blueprint I present in Chapter 5), she will start to change, without her even realizing it. And a lot of your relationship issues will “magically” go away. Things will be different only when you’re different.

The blueprint I share is not based on the old model of control, compulsion, and domineering. Nor is it based on the more recent “nice guy” model that produces harmless and tentative men who find that women don’t respect them. Rather, the framework is based on clarity and leadership, while it still honors strong women and gender equality. 

This is not a manual for Alpha Dogs, nor a fuzzy spiritual guide. Rather, it is a clear set of principles that help men live from their Masculine core and bring leadership to their relationship. It is a blueprint for inspiring your woman’s trust, lust, and devotion. 

THE MASCULINE BLUEPRINT

This book will not offer vague platitudes. Rather, its foundation is a three-part framework describing a well-developed Masculine core. It does not describe external behaviors to mimic, but rather the inner dynamic of true masculinity. The three elements of this framework are:

Respond vs. React: rather than living reactively to outside stimuli, you respond choicefully to the world.

Provide Structure:you live as an organizing force, providing clarity and direction to minimize the level of uncertainty and decision-making burden with which your woman must deal.

Create Safety: you do the things necessary to make your woman feel physically, financially, and emotionally safe, which is what enables her to relax into her natural Feminine state.

“Being Masculine” need not be an esoteric concept. Just measure your way of being against these three reasonably objective elements.

When you embody these skills, your Masculine orientation induces her to relax back into her Feminine — a state of more playfulness, adoration, and sexual openness. And that is when the irritability, flatness, criticizing, and sexual closure will start to abate. Because of your way of being, she will start to change. Of course, living these skills daily is not easy, but the payoff is worth it.

This book is written for you if you want to feel more in control of your life. More grounded in yourself. More successful in your intimate relationships. If you want more sex, respect, electricity, fun, and closeness with your partner, and less meaningless bickering. You will achieve these things only by LEADING the two of you out of your current pattern of relating and into the type of relationship that you crave.